Wes and I have found that there have been situations of blatant hostility toward fathers in the military. Since we are trying to avoid anecdotal evidence, I found the story of Naval Submariner Matthew Hindes. Judge Margaret Noe had threatened Matthew with jail time and reverting custody of his daughter back to the mother. Matthew’s lawyer cited the ServiceMembers Civil Relief Act Subchapter II, Section 3931, Subheading 4D – Stay of proceedings – Link to the document is here -> UNITED STATES CODE Servicemembers Civil Relief Act Accurate as of March 6, 2016 .
Judge Noe, literally said she would not honor or respect Federal Statute, and threatened jail time for contempt of court. She also said she would take Matthew’s daughter away from him and giving her back to her mother. I got upset that people don’t think this kind of thing happens. Read the following links and you tell me if this is fantasy.
Wes and I wanted to start framing these episodes with the concept of SMEAC, or the Five paragraph order: Situation, Mission, Execution, Admin/Logistics, Command and Signals. This way we can provide some ideas on how to deal with both Jody and Jodie from a warrior’s perspective.
Execution
We want you all to execute some self learning, and start arming yourself with knowledge. These are the links that Wes referenced in this podcast.
Wes and I are not probate lawyers nor are we military law experts. You should always consult an attorney before making any kind of choice that could have an negative impact on your case. Also reach out for help from fellow Veterans if you are in a hard time. 22 a day is still a reality.
Command and Signals
As Wes said over and over, you must keep yourself under control in the courtroom at all times. You must try to master your feelings and emotions. If you think of this as battleground, it is easier to take those negative emotions out of the equation.
Contact Emails
If you have comments, questions, or think we are just plain wrong, contact us.
Wes – wesley.mullings@gmail.com
Travis – travis@oscarmikeradio.com
Jody and Jodie Podcast Links
I will add the episode links so you can get caught up. This is a year long series, so buckle up!
Mistress Carrie is a DJ for WAAF in Boston, MA. She came on Oscar Mike Radio for Episode 62. Click here for (OMR Episode 62 Link) for the podcast. We had talked about all the trolls who blew up over a picture of her and Senator Elizabeth Warren. The whole thing went way out of proportion and people were talking all kinds of crazy stuff about how Mistress Carrie didn’t care for Veterans. Well, suffice to say she went scorched earth on that idea! At the end of the podcast she told me she was working on the top secret mission would update me later.
Fast forward to March, and we setup a time to talk again. Suffice to say she got a big welcome to life in the military! Hurry up and wait to go nowhere fast!!!
All kidding aside, when you understand what was required to get ready to go on this mission, to get the no go order at the last minute was a big let down to say the least. Listening her talk about what it took to go, much less execute, you can see that this wasn’t a publicity stunt. She genuinely cares about those who are in the military and veterans.
My question is I wonder what will be next for her?
The reason I am doing this as two parts is once we got done talking about her latest mission, the conversation kept going and, I didn’t want to cut it. So I will do the second part of the conversation in a couple weeks.
Jodie, or Jody is a legendary figure for military men has been terrorizing servicemembers for years. You can click on this link — WayWord Radio – Jody to hear how this term came to be. I had been thinking about this for a while because a couple guys I know get really down during February. Also, in boot camp, some poor guy is getting his heart stomped on right now.
However, I was talking over this with my Marine Brother, Wesley Mullings, and he said, “What if Jody is Jodie?” What if Jody is a machine that can prevent fathers from seeing their kids. I thought about it about and said how about we do a series on this? Wes thought it over and here we go.
The one thing we want to make clear is this is not a monthly women bashing session. What we are looking at doing is offering support to Military and Veterans who are going through divorce, or are dealing with the battlefield that is family court. This goes for female service members too. If you are a female service member and are battling through this, we want to hear from you.
So who is Jody? For many guys it is the “other man”. The guy they got dumped for in boot camp. Jody is the guy that your kids call uncle or daddy when you get back from a Westpac Float. Oh yeah, smooth but unseen, he preys on unsuspecting wives and girlfriends while you are getting your ass kicked daily defending your country.
You find out Jody struck and your world comes to screeching halt. There are these feelings of rage, despair and helplessness. If you are a recruit in boot-camp it really sucks, but it happens in the fleet to active duty military all too often to ignore anymore.
Some of you may feel the need to do all kinds of things. Things that may seem like a good idea at the time, but in reality will make the situation worse. Wes said it best, “Keep your cool.” You need to talk to someone and get some help. This Jody Series is designed to give you tools to win at life and in family court.
Power Breathing & Meditation presented by Project Welcome Troops
This week I talked to JJ Bennet who is helping coordinate a Power Breath and Meditation Class by Project Welcome Home Troops. PWHT has a class starting January 24th so I wanted to find out more. I am very interested in methods of healing that might be considered different or odd in this era of modern medicine.
I messaged JJ through Irreverent Warriors Boston (Irreverent Warriors Boston – Facebook Page) and setup a time to talk with him. He is a 8 year Navy Veteran who has done work with the VA. He also spends a lot of time working with Veterans just as a way to take of us. He told me about his experiences with Power Breath and why he feels it worked so well for him.
As JJ was talking I think what stood out most was that this was not a sale. This was his experience with using meditation and focused breathing to deal with everything from rush hour driving on Route 3 (Bostonians know what he is talking about) to grocery shopping. JJ spoke from someone who walks his talk. I found myself wondering how this would work for me.
If you look at the image below you will see that there is a class starting January 24th going through the 28th. The class will be hosted at the West Roxbury VA in the Barsamian Auditorium. This class if free to Veterans. You can reach out Chuck Foster at chuck.foster@pwht.org, or call him (978) 314-7052 for more information.
I am going to try to go and see what this is all about. It would be good to experience what JJ did and see what this can do for me.
FitzyMess Update
Good to see FitzyMess on FitzyMess Facebook Video this week. Check out his album, Welcome to the Infantry and Mess on all the usual places.
I was asked, “How do I get on the show?” The simple answer is you need to email me – travis@oscarmikeradio.com. I will see what you are about and take it from there. If you are active duty, a veteran or someone who supports us, or have something military related to talk about then we can get the conversation going. Then if everything works out, I will schedule a time to come on the podcast. It is just that easy.
The Word
A good friend of mine gave me this book to read. The title is “Make Your Bed”. It was written by U.S. Navy Admiral (Ret) William McRaven. Admiral McRaven served with the SEALs and has a long and distinguished career.
Make your Bed is short. It is 104 pages long, and didn’t take me long to read. I read it again and realized that the best part about the book is it is laid out in easy to digest concepts. Completing a task before you leave your room, your home or driveway can start a pattern where you can tackle larger things in life because you have done something small.
The chapters of the book had stories from Admiral McRaven’s days in SEAL training as well as challenges serving as a SEAL Team Commander. Each chapter was focused on simple ways to meet and conquer life’s difficulties.
I think this is a book you can give anyone at any point of their lives. I think is especially true for those leaving the military and transitioning into civilian life. Thanks to my friend Kola, who loaned this to me. I strongly recommend checking it out.
Complaint Department
POG and GRUNT were not happy about this story – Army Recruits go Home for Holidays . They were not happy. Even the Air Force doesn’t do that for their recruits.
Jodie, or Jody is a legendary figure for military men has been terrorizing servicemembers for years. You can click on this link — 
This week I talked to JJ Bennet who is helping coordinate a Power Breath and Meditation Class by Project Welcome Home Troops. PWHT has a class starting January 24th so I wanted to find out more. I am very interested in methods of healing that might be considered different or odd in this era of modern medicine.
